It is easy to lose your positive vibe when you have a screaming baby in the wee hours of the morning! Here is a great video montage to help you regain your composure and feed a little more oxytocin into your day.
Supporting mothers in establishing a successful breastfeeding relationship is one of our most important roles as doulas.
When we talk about the first hours after birth we often tell expectant mothers to trust the baby, they know exactly what to do and the less we mess with the process, the better it goes.
The following YouTube videos show how the slow, gradual process occurs. We all just need to be patient and let nature take its course. You and your baby are amazing magical creatures. If anyone tells you otherwise, come back and watch these.
The first is a quick highlight reel video by Entrust.
The second video is from Raising Children Network and has interviews with two mothers.
This third video posted by Jennifer Pitkin is the whole process. This mom and baby have had immediate skin-to-skin and it seems there has been no interference. Oh the suspense!!
I admit, the Royal Family fascinates me! According to Life & Style Weekly, Kate is expecting baby #3 with Prince William. If it's true, congratulations to the growing family!
Like many of us regular non-royal moms, Kate has had rough pregnancies dealing with hyperemesis and bed-rest. I was sick through the entire duration of pregnancy #2. It was horrible.
However, Kate is a future Queen. She is provided unending support by nannies, midwives, Ladies Maids and chefs...(ahhhh Downton Abbey season 6 starts soon in the US!)
While I may be Queen of my Castle here in Morganville NJ, the staffing is sadly inadequate. If this was a Vlog, I would pan the camera. You would see, my maid sucks and the chef did not show up again today.
So how can we get the royal treatment for our pregnancy and early days after the baby arrives? Here are my 3 quick suggestions:
1. Plan ahead for time to rest. Kate has planners and schedulers whose sole purpose is to plan her day. I have my datebook. It's sad we have to plan to rest, but we do, so learn to use the crock-pot, follow-our Menu Monday Blog and sign-up any older kids you have for some activity that takes them out of your space for an hour or two. We all benefit from some child-free time and they benefit from some mommy-free time.
2. Surround yourself with people who are positive support. A good friend who just agrees because she know it's what you need to hear, and then gently nudges you in the better direction. ie: Me: I am going to eat this entire box of Ghirardelli chocolates and follow them with a bottle of wine! Friend: Sounds AWESOME! How about I take you for a milkshake and a pedi instead?
3. Plan for "after birth support". If you can afford a nanny, hire one. If not, this is the time to put some cash aside for a postpartum doula. Kate has them, we should all have them. A Postpartum Doula comes to you and does all the things that Kate's staff does for her. She helps mom with self-care, she helps care for baby, she helps you spend time with older siblings, she makes sure you are eating and showering, she listens to you and makes sure you are healthy in body and mind! She gets it.
Most importantly she treats you like a queen.
Not in the creepy "smoking in the alley complaining about uppity nonsense" way. In the "I will listen and support you without judgement" way. It's time we all got treated like Kate.
It takes a special kind of person with a great deal of patience and compassion and training to support a new mother. And we have plenty of them!
Call us now at 732-754-9551 to see how we can treat you like a Royal.
Found this on social media today! I could seriously watch him do this all day. Thanks for the tip Dr. Bob....whoever you are.
And now we are seeing the follow-up videos. From NJ 101.5 FM radio personality Jeff Deminski....OMG it works!