It is easy to lose your positive vibe when you have a screaming baby in the wee hours of the morning! Here is a great video montage to help you regain your composure and feed a little more oxytocin into your day.
I admit, the Royal Family fascinates me! According to Life & Style Weekly, Kate is expecting baby #3 with Prince William. If it's true, congratulations to the growing family!
Like many of us regular non-royal moms, Kate has had rough pregnancies dealing with hyperemesis and bed-rest. I was sick through the entire duration of pregnancy #2. It was horrible.
However, Kate is a future Queen. She is provided unending support by nannies, midwives, Ladies Maids and chefs...(ahhhh Downton Abbey season 6 starts soon in the US!)
While I may be Queen of my Castle here in Morganville NJ, the staffing is sadly inadequate. If this was a Vlog, I would pan the camera. You would see, my maid sucks and the chef did not show up again today.
So how can we get the royal treatment for our pregnancy and early days after the baby arrives? Here are my 3 quick suggestions:
1. Plan ahead for time to rest. Kate has planners and schedulers whose sole purpose is to plan her day. I have my datebook. It's sad we have to plan to rest, but we do, so learn to use the crock-pot, follow-our Menu Monday Blog and sign-up any older kids you have for some activity that takes them out of your space for an hour or two. We all benefit from some child-free time and they benefit from some mommy-free time.
2. Surround yourself with people who are positive support. A good friend who just agrees because she know it's what you need to hear, and then gently nudges you in the better direction. ie: Me: I am going to eat this entire box of Ghirardelli chocolates and follow them with a bottle of wine! Friend: Sounds AWESOME! How about I take you for a milkshake and a pedi instead?
3. Plan for "after birth support". If you can afford a nanny, hire one. If not, this is the time to put some cash aside for a postpartum doula. Kate has them, we should all have them. A Postpartum Doula comes to you and does all the things that Kate's staff does for her. She helps mom with self-care, she helps care for baby, she helps you spend time with older siblings, she makes sure you are eating and showering, she listens to you and makes sure you are healthy in body and mind! She gets it.
Most importantly she treats you like a queen.
Not in the creepy "smoking in the alley complaining about uppity nonsense" way. In the "I will listen and support you without judgement" way. It's time we all got treated like Kate.
It takes a special kind of person with a great deal of patience and compassion and training to support a new mother. And we have plenty of them!
Call us now at 732-754-9551 to see how we can treat you like a Royal.
Placentas are a hot topic again, as Kim Kardashian announced she will consume her placenta from second baby, Saint North's birth.
While we know this idea isn't going to be for everyone, we have been getting calls asking for a smoothie recipe, so here goes. (Keep in mind you can make this recipe WITHOUT the placenta!)
If you have your placenta in your freezer, this is how you can use it! This recipe is from Code Name Mama's Blog. Visit her blog for more smoothie recipes.
Vanilla Yogurt Smoothie
1 cup yogurt (greek or regular)
3 frozen strawberries
1 tsp vanilla
1 tbsp flax seed meal (for Omega-3’s)
1 tbsp dry quinoa (whole or ground for protein)
Dollop of honey (optional)
If you want to know more about the benefits of consuming your placenta as pills or tinctures, connect with us by calling 732-754-9551 or visiting our website NJPlacenta.com. You can also check out our digital information guide here.
Kim Kardashian has just announced the birth of baby number 2, Saint West, and she will also consume her placenta, as she did with first baby, North West.
In her app, Kim posts, "“I really didn't want the baby blues and thought I can't go wrong with taking a pill made of my own hormones--made by me, for me. I started researching and read about so many moms who felt the same way and said the overall healing process was so much easier. I had great results and felt so energized and didn't have any signs of depression! I definitely had to do it again. Every time I take a pill, I feel a surge of energy and feel really healthy and good. I totally recommend it for anyone considering it!"
People eating their placentas is not new. It just isn't common practice in the US. For thousands of years, people around the world have consumed placenta as postpartum medicine. Placentophagy is the act of people eating the placenta after childbirth.
It's rise in popularity in the US has been heavily influenced by Hollywood celebrities who consumed their placentas. Below is a short list of celebrity moms who consumed their placentas.
Kourtney Kardashian - This mother of three has been very open about consuming her placentas. On January 10th 2015, Kourtney posted this picture of her encapsulated placenta on instagram and wrote, “Yummy…PLACENTA pills! No joke…I will be sad when my placenta pills run out. They are life changing! #benefits #lookitup."
Alicia Silverstone - Encapsulated her placenta. "Someone gifted me my (dehydrated) placenta in the form of pills. And I have to tell you that I really loved it! I got to the point that my husband said, 'Did you have your happy pills today?' And I was really sad when they were gone. It really helped me."
Mayim Bialik - This Big Bang Theory actress and attachment parenting activist wrote a blog post called ‘You’re Not Gross’ that defended fellow Hollywood actresses Alicia Silverstone and January Jones’ decisions to encapsulate their placentas. In the blog post Mayim admitted she, too, had eaten her placenta in capsule form. "It's good for mammals to eat the placenta and we evolved for that purpose," she wrote.
Tamera Mowry - Tamera Mowry tinctured her placenta after the birth of her son, Aiden. Liquified placenta, mixed with brandy, and administered through a dropper. Tamera, along with her twin sister, Tia, pulled a bizarre stunt for the season finale of the Tia & Tamera reality show. Tamera dropped some of her ‘placenta cocktail’ onto her sister Tias tongue. 'I was really, really surprised that it tasted pretty good mixed with a little bit of alcohol,' Tia wrote on her blog. 'It was definitely Tamera paying me back for making her taste my breast milk.'
Placentophagy has proven to be tremendously beneficial to our clients. While our clients are not as famous as the gals listed above, they mean the world to us! The staff of Wise Birth Choices want you to have the best experience possible in birth & postpartum. We would love to speak with you to see if this amazing service is right for you. Call us at 732-754-9551 or visit NJPlacenta.com to book your services.
We all know that new parents are tired, but no matter how tired you are, you still have to eat, shower, keep a tidy-ish house, have time for yourself, spouse and other children if you have them. The advice “sleep when the baby sleeps” isn't realistic for a lot of new moms.
When my daughter was born a lot of people offered to help, but the truth was I didn't really know what I needed and I just wanted to be alone with my new baby.
My mother-in-law came to stay nearby for a couple weeks, but I felt badly asking her to do things like wash dishes, throw in laundry, vacuum, scrub the tub etc. So I took it upon myself to do the work and let her hold the baby.
All of that work exhausted me, and unbeknownst to me, I had severe postpartum anxiety that went untreated. I was up every half hour checking my baby to make sure she was still breathing and every 2 hours nursing her around the clock. I had a miscarriage previously and I was terrified that my daughter would die.
I was so sleep deprived that I could barely stand, but I also couldn't stand having my kitchen in disarray, my floors dirty, my SELF dirty, etc. To me, tidiness and cleanliness are soothing. So, during time that I should have been resting I was taking care of my apartment and guests.
Things got very out of hand and my postpartum bleeding got worse and worse until I finally called my OB who told me to "take it easy". I told her I wasn't sleeping and she said I was "at risk" for postpartum depression.
Hello! I was already in the full throes of PPD/PPA and nobody around me acknowledged it. Not even me.
I tried to help myself but I just didn’t know what to do. I cried every single day and imposed a rigorous pumping schedule on myself in the hopes that I would be able to sleep through one feeding a night (never happened BTW). During the day I obsessed over rearranging and cleaning the apartment, even though it never seemed clean or in order.
I felt like I was drowning.
One afternoon, I was attempting to put myself to bed for a nap, but on my way to the bedroom I saw that there were PILES of dishes and cookware from breakfast. The breakfast we ate 6 hours prior. I saw my mother-in-law sitting with the baby and my husband enjoying a cup of coffee at the dining room table. The tears starting flowing and I started scrubbing dishes. My mother-in-law, not knowing what was going on, asked me to bring her a glass of water.
Annnnd...I lost it completely. I screamed and cursed at her, telling her to get out of my house. I told my husband that the kitchen mess was unacceptable and I want my baby right now! “GIVE ME MY BABY RIGHT NOW!”
After talking it over with my in-laws, and trying to explain the best that I could about my emotional state and apologizing profusely, we all decided that it would be best if they went home.
I could finally enjoy time with my baby without feeling like I had to let other people hold her and change her. I was so happy to be alone with the baby, when my husband went to work the next day.
But that didn't change things. I basically starved while he was gone. I sat stressed and staring at all of the laundry piling up and obsessing over the dirty floors. It was the dead of winter so the baby and I couldn't even really go out for a walk.
I went on neglecting my own care, ordering take-out and prepared foods and letting my apartment be gross. But eventually all the time I spent in bed and on the couch with my daughter started to make me feel better. As my hormones balanced and I became more confident in my abilities to parent and I bonded strongly with her, my symptoms, even though untreated, eventually and fortunately, subsided.
NONE OF THIS HAD TO BE THIS WAY. I could have insisted that my doctor help me. I could have called a warm line/ hot line. I could have done a lot of things, but I didn’t even know how bad things were, and neither did those around me; even though all of the evidence was there.
When I found out that I was pregnant again I cried. I was so scared about how everything was going to work out financially, but I was even more worried about having a repeat of that horrible postpartum experience, this time with my daughter as a witness.
I vowed that I would prepare myself as much as possible for total healing and bonding. THIS time, I want my family to have a few days alone, just the four of us, getting to know each other. We have scheduled a postpartum doula to come daily for 2 weeks to help make sure that I get a daily bath or shower, that the family is fed, that my diaper and breastfeeding stations have everything they need, that my house doesn't fall into total chaos and most importantly, that I sleep!
I want my only responsibilities for the first two weeks to be caring for my newborn, my daughter and myself. When the doula's time with us is over and I need to resume the household maintenance, I will still have my freezer full of good food ready to go. My freezer is packed with four months of nutritious meals, snacks and breads. All I will have to do is make a salad to go with dinner. There won't be pots and pans to scrub, there won't be blocks of time that have to be cleared so I can be in the kitchen... there won't be a worry about "what am I going to feed us?".
I’ve done more to prepare as well. I plan to hire a cleaning lady to come in every two weeks to scrub down the apartment; a friend is going to stop by twice a week to throw the laundry in for me; I have the number of a mobile massage service posted on my fridge; my pantry is stocked with nourishing home blended herbal teas for the weeks postpartum; I also made 10 bath sachets with healing and calming herbs; but most importantly I’ve hired a new OB!
My obstetrician this time is very aware of my past and current anxiety, I’m currently managing everything through the use of a workbook, relaxation techniques and cognitive behavioral therapy. If I need medication my very experienced OB is just a call away and since she knows me well enough that she can call something in for me right away. All of the preparation in the world won’t help without evidence-based professional support.
Contributed by the Fabulous Doula Tzipi Sutin. Tzipi can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org
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