We teach you how to ask the right questions, and empower you to communicate your concerns to your provider.  You don't need more fear in your childbirth education, you need more tools and infomation.  

An emergency cesarean was not part of Ellen and Dan's plans for birth. Dan describes how empowered he felt leaving the workshop with the tools to facilitate for Ellen before and after her emergency cesarean birth.
 
 
Sadly it is very common for woman to have traumatic and disappointing birth experiences with their first birth.  Let us help you change your expectations and prepare for a beautiful and positive birth this time.

GentleBirth Mom Clare describes how GentleBirth helped her overcome her fears after a difficult first birth experience.
 
 
GentleBirth Childbirth Classes include a huge focus on mindfulness.  Here are 5 min mindful minutes at the beach
 
 
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Supporting mothers in establishing a successful breastfeeding relationship is one of our most important roles as doulas.  

When we talk about the first hours after birth we often tell expectant mothers to trust the baby, they know exactly what to do and the less we mess with the process, the better it goes.





The following YouTube videos show how the slow, gradual process occurs.  We all just need to be patient and let nature take its course.  You and your baby are amazing magical creatures.  If anyone tells you otherwise, come back and watch these.  

The first is a quick highlight reel video by Entrust.  
The second video is from Raising Children Network and has interviews with two mothers.
This third video posted by Jennifer Pitkin is the whole process.  This mom and baby have had immediate skin-to-skin and it seems there has been no interference.  Oh the suspense!!
 
 
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I taught myself to knit and crochet in high school.  MANY moons ago!  My favorite time spent knitting and crocheting was during my pregnancies.  There is something special about knitting baby outfits for your little one.  Each of my littles had a wardrobe by the time they were born.

I also made a blanket for each of my babies while I was pregnant. It kept my mind occupied when I was nervous about giving birth.  It helped keep me sane when I was still pregnant at 42 weeks.  It helped me connect with my baby before the birth.  While I crocheted, I imagined what their personalities would be and what they would look like wrapped in my creation.

Being pregnant in New Jersey during the winter made me feel isolated.  I found a little knitting group that met at the Barnes & Noble so I would have actual human interaction.  I kept up with them after the baby was born, too. It helped pick me up during the baby blues. They were a great postpartum support group of wise, experienced grandmothers.

As a doula, I continued knitting to occupy the "waiting time".  I always have a baby hat in progress in my doula bag, sometimes finishing them in time for the birth.  Clients sent me pictures of those babies wearing their doula hats.  My creation on their creation.  Nothing better than that.

My Stained Glass Blanket above is a version of the Granny Square found here.  It was a stash buster project and I love how it turned out.  It isn't quite a beginner project though, so this link will take you to the Yarnspirations site for an easy Beginner Baby Blanket Pattern.  I hope it inspires you to try yarn crafting!

 
 
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I admit, the Royal Family fascinates me!  According to Life & Style Weekly, Kate is expecting baby #3 with Prince William.  If it's true, congratulations to the growing family!

Like many of us regular non-royal moms, Kate has had rough pregnancies dealing with hyperemesis and bed-rest.  I was sick through the entire duration of pregnancy #2.  It was horrible.

However, Kate is a future Queen.  She is provided unending support by nannies, midwives, Ladies Maids and chefs...(ahhhh Downton Abbey season 6 starts soon in the US!)   

While I may be Queen of my Castle here in Morganville NJ, the staffing is sadly inadequate. If this was a Vlog, I would pan the camera.  You would see, my maid sucks and the chef did not show up again today.

So how can we get the royal treatment for our pregnancy and early days after the baby arrives?  Here are my 3 quick suggestions:

1.  Plan ahead for time to rest.  Kate has planners and schedulers whose sole purpose is to plan her day.  I have my datebook.  It's sad we have to plan to rest, but we do, so learn to use the crock-pot, follow-our Menu Monday Blog and sign-up any older kids you have for some activity that takes them out of your space for an hour or two.  We all benefit from some child-free time and they benefit from some mommy-free time.

2.  Surround yourself with people who are positive support.  A good friend who just agrees because she know it's what you need to hear, and then gently nudges you in the better direction.  ie:  Me:  I am going to eat this entire box of Ghirardelli chocolates and follow them with a bottle of wine! Friend: Sounds AWESOME!  How about I take you for a milkshake and a pedi instead?

3.  Plan for "after birth support".  If you can afford a nanny, hire one.  If not, this is the time to put some cash aside for a postpartum doula.  Kate has them, we should all have them.  A Postpartum Doula comes to you and does all the things that Kate's staff does for her. She helps mom with self-care, she helps care for baby, she helps you spend time with older siblings, she makes sure you are eating and showering, she listens to you and makes sure you are healthy in body and mind!  She gets it.

Most importantly she treats you like a queen.  

Not in the creepy "smoking in the alley complaining about uppity nonsense" way.  In the "I will listen and support you without judgement" way.  It's time we all got treated like Kate.  
It takes a special kind of person with a great deal of patience and compassion and training to support a new mother.  And we have plenty of them!

Call us now at 732-754-9551 to see how we can treat you like a Royal.






 
 
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Kim Kardashian has just announced the birth of baby number 2, Saint West, and she will also consume her placenta, as she did with first baby, North West.  

In her app, Kim posts, "“I really didn't want the baby blues and thought I can't go wrong with taking a pill made of my own hormones--made by me, for me.  I started researching and read about so many moms who felt the same way and said the overall healing process was so much easier.  I had great results and felt so energized and didn't have any signs of depression!  I definitely had to do it again.  Every time I take a pill, I feel a surge of energy and feel really healthy and good.  I totally recommend it for anyone considering it!"

People eating their placentas is not new. It just isn't common practice in the US. For thousands of years, people around the world have consumed placenta as postpartum medicine. Placentophagy is the act of people eating the placenta after childbirth.

It's rise in popularity in the US has been heavily influenced by Hollywood celebrities who consumed their placentas. Below is a short list of celebrity moms who consumed their placentas.

Kourtney Kardashian - This mother of three has been very open about consuming her placentas. On January 10th 2015, Kourtney posted this picture of her encapsulated placenta on instagram and wrote, “Yummy…PLACENTA pills! No joke…I will be sad when my placenta pills run out. They are life changing! #benefits #lookitup." 

Alicia Silverstone - Encapsulated her placenta. "Someone gifted me my (dehydrated) placenta in the form of pills. And I have to tell you that I really loved it!  I got to the point that my husband said, 'Did you have your happy pills today?'  And I was really sad when they were gone. It really helped me."

Mayim Bialik - This Big Bang Theory actress and attachment parenting activist wrote a blog post called ‘You’re Not Gross’ that defended fellow Hollywood actresses Alicia Silverstone and January Jones’ decisions to encapsulate their placentas. In the blog post Mayim admitted she, too, had eaten her placenta in capsule form.  "It's good for mammals to eat the placenta and we evolved for that purpose," she wrote.

Tamera Mowry - Tamera Mowry tinctured her placenta after the birth of her son, Aiden. Liquified placenta, mixed with brandy, and administered through a dropper. Tamera, along with her twin sister, Tia, pulled a bizarre stunt for the season finale of the Tia & Tamera reality show. Tamera dropped some of her ‘placenta cocktail’ onto her sister Tias tongue. 'I was really, really surprised that it tasted pretty good mixed with a little bit of alcohol,' Tia wrote on her blog. 'It was definitely Tamera paying me back for making her taste my breast milk.'

Placentophagy has proven to be tremendously beneficial to our clients. While our clients are not as famous as the gals listed above, they mean the world to us!  The staff of Wise Birth Choices want you to have the best experience possible in birth & postpartum. We would love to speak with you to see if this amazing service is right for you.  Call us at 732-754-9551 or visit NJPlacenta.com to book your services.